Anonymous asked: FYI on the Facebook pronouns. I selected "them" and I now show up on my family's pages as their son/brother. I had my gender censored from them in a custom privacy setting but FB kinda inadvertently outed me. Just in case anyone is in the same boat, passing that along.
Oh wow. That’s kinda shitty—
Ahh, so not only are neutral pronouns getting masculine defaults for relation terms (really, it should be sibling, child, spouse, etc), relation terms aren’t ACLed.
This raises the question: how would you ACL those relationship terms? I mean, you have to put something there; otherwise that would flag as suspicious. I suppose showing gender-neutral terms as described above for anyone who doesn’t have the ACL is the obvious solution, but even that could be strange. I can just see: “My profile says you’re my ‘child’, now. What’s up with that?”
Really the ideal seems to be that, for safety, some people shouldn’t know you’ve set a custom gender.
So the real solution here is to allow a user to set multiple custom genders, each with a separate ACL list. So you can have a public / family view gender, and then a ‘for friends I’m out to’ gender, at a minimum.
In the meantime, signal boost, because this is going to be non-obvious to a whole lot of people and doesn’t seem to be documented anywhere.
Things that I have found while desperately searching for my passport
- $25 (amassed from a few different places)
- a $15 iTunes gift card that I had not yet redeemed
- A stash of tickets from last year’s VQFF (from an ex that worked there last summer and I gather misplaced them)
- An old expired passport from my childhood
I have figured out that I used my passport since I moved to this apartment (to be a guarantor for someone) but that was a year ago and I can’t remember where I put it after that? Curse you, past Amy! I’m supposed to go to across the border in a week and a half for a scrimmage and I have spent hours ripping apart my room to no avail.
Laughing yoga is legit the worst
I did not need to experience it to know that, but nonetheless I have, and must now live a life of regret.
While I was on the phone with Nicole, we figured out that One Hundred and One Dalmatians (the novel on which the movie is based) and I Capture the Castle were written by the same person! And that Dodie is short for Dorothy. Wikipedia, you’ve done it again!